Choosing which of your friends and loved ones will stand next to you on your wedding day is a huge decision. From childhood friends to college BFFs to sisters, you likely have your choice of wonderful young women to support you on your big day.
If you’re not sure where to begin when it comes to determining your bridal party, then look no further! We’ve compiled some of the most common questions that brides have about how to choose their girls.
Do we have to have the same number of bridesmaids and groomsmen?
Not at all! Even wedding parties are more common, and let’s face it, who doesn’t love symmetry? But there’s no reason why you have to have the same number of people on both sides of your wedding party. If you’re worried about the walk down the aisle, you can have two bridesmaids walk with a single groomsman or let an extra groomsman walk on his own. You can even have each person walk separately.
Can I have more than one Maid of Honor?
How you order and title your bridal party is entirely up to you. Some women give everyone the title of Maid or Matron of Honor, while others get rid of titles altogether so no one feels left out. Having multiple MOHs can allow your bridal party to split up the traditional responsibilities of the Maid of Honor, making planning your engagement party and bridal shower easier on everyone involved.
What about a Bridesman or Man of Honor?
Just because you’re a woman doesn’t mean your entire wedding party has to be! Whether you have a close male friend or a brother you can’t live without, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with including him in your wedding party. Consider ditching the label of “bridesmaid” or giving your male members a special title. And be sure to pick a suit or outfit for him that matches with the color scheme of the rest of your bridal party.
Do I have to include my sisters and/or sisters-in-law?
While many brides choose to include their sisters or SILs-to-be in their wedding party, that can get tricky if you or your fiancé has a lot of siblings. You can opt for only family members in your bridal party or no family members at all. Just be sure to speak with anyone who may feel slighted and make sure they understand your decision. And if you do decide to include your sister but don’t give her the Maid of Honor role, consider giving her a special accessory or bouquet that will allow her to stand out.
When should I ask people to be in my bridal party?
It’s a good idea to ask your friends and/or family members to be part of your wedding within the first few months of your engagement. Bridesmaids have much more responsibility than wedding guests, and the more time you can give your party to plan, the better off you all will be.
Should I pay for my bridesmaids’ attire?
Like most parts of wedding planning, this is your decision and is something you will have to determine based on your budget. Most brides ask their wedding parties to cover the cost of their own dress, shoes and hair styling, but in addition to wedding gifts and travel costs, this can quickly add up. If you’re able to afford it, consider helping out your bridesmaids by paying for their gowns and shoes as a token of your gratitude.
How large should my bridal party be?
This is entirely up to you, but your guest list y up to you, but your guest list can help dictate how many women you should ask to stand with you. If you’re having a small wedding, you may not want eight bridesmaids standing up with you, especially as it will make those few friends in the audience feel left out. But if you’re having a large wedding ceremony, the more the merrier!